“What do you do that causes her to treat you that way?” was a question my counseling professor, Fr. Dr. Robert McEniry (Creighton University), taught his students to ask in a marriage counseling situation. The question presupposes that the responsibility for what happens between married partners is on each of them, not just one of […]
Month: February 2014
Are YOU a Dreamer of the Day or Dreamer of the Night?
T. E. Lawrence (Lawrence of Arabia) wrote in his introduction to Seven Pillars of Wisdom, “All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act […]
Danger Ahead: Extreme Responses to Loneliness
Everyone endures bouts of loneliness from time to time. They are usually short-lived because the causes are either social (broke up with their girl/boyfriend, got a divorce, had a fight with their best friend, etc.), or geographical (moved to another job, town, school, etc.). Mentally healthy people adapt quickly to new situations and are able […]
What Lonely People Say
What’s your reason for being lonely? There are reasons and there are misguided excuses. You can identify which are excuses and which are reasons by hearing what lonely peoples say. “I’m alone by no choice of my own.” Some years ago I knew a lady who wanted to save her marriage from destruction. She had […]
Eight Causes of Loneliness
At every season in life, loneliness of some degree is unavoidable: Intransigence – change, tragedy – joy, failure – success, birth – death, love- hate, war – peace, life itself, all contribute to social interaction or social disconnect. What are the causes of loneliness? Here are eight common causes of loneliness: Abuse (often referred to […]
